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Originally Posted by saidso
Also I wonder if you could ask those girls in the coffee shop what they look for in a man.  That might be a chance for you to explore more about what they know about relating. Asking questions is a good form of reality testing!!! |
Good idea.
Also, something I've been doing more of and some advice that could probably help OP develop social skills is practicing approaching women and starting conversations with them in low pressure environments, such as conversing with cashiers at coffee shops and stores. You can practice the waters without having to worry in places like this because you are unlikely to ever see the people again unless it's somewhere you frequent. That way if you screw up there are virtually no downsides. Plus, if you start to do well socially, you can potentially make an employee's day since most cashiers, waiters, and people in retail/customer service have to deal with rude and hateful customers daily.
At least this method has been helping me get over some of my social awkwardness.