Did he actually use the word "*****"? This would really bother me. I seem to remember him referencing "blue balls" recently as well, in relation to your partner's "need" for sexual contact. For me, this is acutely patriarchal and misogynist language and indicates a male-centric/female-marginalising approach. This would be a deal-breaker for me, regardless of his other significant failings.

I appreciate that you will probably feel differently, but I don't want this kind of de-valuing language about women to go unnoticed, even if others don't baulk at it.