We have been through this with the OP many times over. She knows it's wrong to do, but she doesn't necessarily feel guilty or bad enough about having an affair with a married man to stop it. She doesn't think about the consequences of possibly ruining a marriage, she doesn't think about the wife's feelings, or how this would devastate and ruin the wife's entire life. She HAS acknowledged it's wrong to do and knows it should not happen. But she cannot seem to help herself.

The OP is in a LOT of emotional pain and turmoil in her own life and feels this man is the ONLY thing that will resolve it. She thinks she was in love.

We have all tried for an entire year to help the OP to resolve this issue, we have all guided her to stay away from the married man, to date other people, single men, and to resolve her own problems.... the OP cannot seem to do anything but go back to this man... again and again.

I personally give up. I think it's a hopeless situation. Nothing we say will make a difference, and no amount of morality injected here will make a difference.

I apologize for my post. I know it's probably not very nice sounding, and for that I sincerely apologize. Those who know me well here know that I only have good intentions and want to sincerely help others here. But I am personally beyond frustrated that for a whole year, all of us have tried to advise her, and it's gone nowhere except right back to having an affair again with the same married man.

She is stuck in a very bad position and place in life and nothing will ever change for her until she takes control of her own life and makes steps to improve it. She refuses to do that, and it's all just extremely, extremely sad to me. It makes me very sad that she cannot seem to make her life better.