Thank you. I admit he has his flaws, but I do feel he's really helped me. Other people have commented on that progress as well. My relationship with my H is better. I'm more social in general. I mean, I didn't include this in the writeup, but the only reason I'd recently turned on all notifications in the group that T's wife posted in? It's because I'd gotten together with someone I met in another autism parents group recently for coffee and was asking about local groups. She was going to add me to that one, but realized I was already in it (and clearly wasn't seeing the posts). So I turned on notifications. So it only happened because I was trying to make more real-life friends (and I'm seeing her again later this month). As an introvert with social anxiety, this is a big deal to me. And my H was ambivalent about going to his friend's party tomorrow, and I convinced him that the three of us should go. When in the past I might have been like "Sure, we can skip it!" and been secretly relieved. But...I want to socialize (sure I want to come home and curl up in a ball afterward, but still...)