I've been stable over a year. I don't count my depression as being unstable because its usually mild. But, its hard to know how stable I actually am because I've been out of work for quite some time. Adding stressors always increases the risk of episode with me.
Yeah antipsychotics suck. And people automatically think crazy when they hear the word. But, they can be life savers. Depending on your dosage, being on a low dose usually makes life more manageable.