I am an alcoholic in recovery, my daughter is an addict and I work with other addicts getting sober. Who is he afraid you will tell? IME honesty is the key to sobriety. The lying and manipulating are part of the active addict behavior. I believe you can have physical sobriety but not emotional sobriety. I think emotional sobriety is key. I hesitate to tell you to say something but I also hesitate telling you to keep quiet because that makes you part of the secret and part of the shame, part of the slip up. What is it that you do with other addicts?