Very wise EM , if that's her reaction to something like that , it would be better to find another T. She doesn't sound cut out to be a trauma T at all. Don't blame yourself OP. Good luck with finding a good T. Often when these things happen , it teaches us a bit of a litmus test skill that that's not going to be helpful. But it's painful nonetheless and that's understandable , that's how we grow , but it may not feel like that at the time.