Please add me to the bandwagon. Before I turned 30, it was a rare time that I got what I needed or wanted. So I learned to not share my needs with anybody, because they were ignored, which only compounded the hurt.

I'm now 35, and a few things have worked out for me over the last five years (not everything, but I feel like the world is giving me a decent deal for once). I now spend a lot of time obsessing over when everything will be taken away or wondering if everything is an elaborate setup for the inevitable punch to the face.

I still marvel at people who don't see that it's pure chance they have good jobs, homes, children, family, and opportunities. They rarely understand their good fortune is more down to luck than anything they actually did.

I agree with the poster that said most people in therapy (or at least on this board) don't need any more lessons in tolerating lack. They need help in getting what they need. I hope your therapist is exploring how you can get the support you need outside of him, and not just focusing on your feelings of being unable to get what you want from him. Fifty minutes of emotional connection a week isn't enough, and I'd want to look at how to find that in other places, rather than concentrating on accepting that you can't get your schedules to marry up.