I would not want to police anyone either. My sister got into financial problems several years ago and my husband and I helped her not only with money (essentially saved her from bankruptcy) but my husband also helped her develop a budget. After we got things lined out, she was so scared she wanted us to manage her money for her, i.e. she would turn her paycheck over to us and we would pay her bills and dole $$ out to her when she needed something. We said NO WAY, we didn't want to do that, that she needed to learn to manage her life/money herself.

The end of the story is she has done much better since then ... not perfect but better :-) But you are right, no recovery story is perfect, whether the issue is drugs or money or whatever.