WOW. I am absolutely stunned. That is just downright cruel, abusive and unbearably controlling of him. I'm very sorry to say, but your husband is severely abusive towards you. And I mean, SEVERELY.

Is he controlling in other ways or only with the dog? It doesn't even matter. I would not put up with this cruelty for one second longer. You do not deserve this, and that is no way to live through life.

PLEASE reconsider your marriage with this man. This is such severe abuse, I have tell you that no amount of couples therapy or talking to him will ever change this man. It doesn't even matter if it's autism at play. It's abuse. Please get out of this relationship, for your own well-being and sanity.

HUGS to you.