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Jan 06, 2019, 11:40 AM
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Member Since: Sep 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 270
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Originally Posted by HopefullyLost1211
Unlocking someone else's phone without their permission is a violation of their boundaries and not okay. It is still not okay to violate someone's boundaries even if you feel they crossed a line...that's like saying "2 wrongs make a right" if you know what I mean.
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Hi HL, thanks for your helpful input here, much appreciated.
I realise that snooping on someone's phone without their knowledge is a big violation of trust (it's not something I would normally have done), but I genuinely had reason to do so and my findings confirmed my suspicions.
I don't think she would ever have came and told me she was texting this guy behind my back if I hadn't have caught her, why would she tell me?
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Originally Posted by HopefullyLost1211
With regard to the "sexting," had you and your fiance discussed your views on cheating guidelines for your relationship....does it include sexting? For some, that is cheating. For some, not. I think cheating needs to be defined by the couple...an agreement on both sides ahead of time...what is "okay" and what is "off limits."
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No, we hadn't discussed what was and wasn't acceptable with regards to cheating at any point - we overlooked this as we have the same beliefs in regards to cheating believe it or not!!!
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Originally Posted by HopefullyLost1211
I think I am noting some ambivalence from you about the end of the relationship. Do I have that right? What do you feel you need at this point? Would you like to have some more dialogue with your gf regardless of whether the goal is to reunite or not? Sometimes people just want to have their thoughts heard even if the relationship will end anyway.
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You are right, I do have a range of mixed feelings right now with the way things are.
I feel that I want her to fully admit to what she has done (which she hasn't other than just mumble when I read the messages out to her), I want her to apologise and ultimately give me some clarity as to whether she would get back with me (if at all) ad if so it would have to be on my terms.
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