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Originally Posted by here today
And what if the person, or an essential part of them, HAS given up? And disappeared. Or compartmentalized in a deep dungeon and the rest of the person, who put them in the dungeon or at least knew about it at some point, metaphorically threw away the key so they would never be tempted to open it again, and thus expose. . .who???. . .to the unbearable feelings and danger again? What then? How many years and different therapists are needed to reach them? What kind of therapy or method or understanding is there in therapy for them?
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I don't have the answer to that and I don't see how anyone could have a definite answer to that. These things cannot be manualised or systematized.
If there is some part in that person that hasn't given up then there is hope that this person keeps searching and hopefully finds the ways and means that are suitable for him or her to start to become visible again and start to exist again.
If the person has given up fully then it is possible that there is nothing anyone can do, other than perhaps keep hoping that maybe somewhere there is still some tiny part that hasn't fully given up yet and one day becomes courageous enough to start searching the ways out.
However, there are no guarantees, neither in therapy nor in life. It's possible that someone goes dutifully to therapy for years (or decades) and it's all in vein and still it is no ones fault - at least they tried.