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Jan 06, 2019, 11:56 AM
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Member Since: Sep 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 270
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Originally Posted by eclairparty98
Hi OP ! Gosh, this brings back memories of my own issues with an untrustworthy ex and the lesson from that experience was to ALWAYS listen to my intuition. Ask yourself, do I really want to be with this person for the rest of my days? What do I want from this relationship? How will staying with this person benefit me going forward? Would I be happier with someone else?
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I did at one point want to be with her for the rest of my days, of course I did and I think she did too.
I wanted from the relationship what 99% of other people would want from a healthy normal relationship.
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Originally Posted by eclairparty98
If you truly want to make this work, do what you truly feel is right. But bare in mind all the alarm bells screaming at you - LYING, interest in other men, the problems you've had to get through in the past...
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You have a very valid point. She did lie to me (several times but I let it go), her interest in other men (from a dating site she met last year but has kept his number throughout our relationship - why?!) and also her flakiness in general.
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Originally Posted by eclairparty98
Put yourself in your girlfriends shoes - if a man flirted with me, how would I respond? If I truly care about and love my boyfriend and want a future with him, I'd block this flirtatious man. Why interract when I have my man to satisfy those needs?? Don't ever invite toxic, negative energy into your relationship. She should be mindful of that and know hetter, being older than you. You'd benefit more from a truthful, thoughtful, loyal girlfriend and she's out there wondering where you are - have faith  it'll hurt now, it ALWAYS does because you're disappointed but you'll one day move on. I believe in you  |
If someone flirted with me, sure I would be flattered........but I would never entertain them further than that - that is crossing a line in my opinion.
I would do exactly as you would do by blocking their number (the flirter third party) and delete their number. I don't know why she didn't know better than to respond to him - screw loose up there perhaps?!
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