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Originally Posted by Depressed-Fiance
I feel that I gave and put more into the relationship than she did. It did at times feel quite one sided in that when I suggested doing activities etc. then she wouldn't always want to go to a place I suggested (there was no give and take.)
I do believe too that she has some issues, but she would be in denial about them if I asked her about them.
That's what all my friends keep saying is that I deserve better and I know that I do. I just loved and gave too much to her and didn't get the same equal balance back in return.
Her attitude to money too is that it grows on trees and I don't personally feel that she understands the value of it.
It all adds up now too because when I confronted her about her cheating text messages, she didn't even seem that remorseful or bothered by my findings which actually did surprise me.
She has shown herself to be a non trustworthy, selfish and downright horrible insensitive woman and one that I no longer want in my life.
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It's truly unfortunate for you that you had to get your heart broken and learn a valuable lesson the hard way. Trust me, I know how it feels to get burned in love... I've had that happen far too many times in my life. and I've been burned many times over by giving my heart too soon to the wrong people.
The true value that you can take away from this is: that you value, love and respect yourself SO much that you won't allow something like this to happen again; and that you will be far more careful with your heart the next time, and with whom you CHOOSE to give it to. It IS a choice. You have choices in love and relationships. And now you know that the person should earn your trust as you get to know them better over the course of time, and as they show you and prove to you through their actions and words repeatedly that they are WORTHY of your heart, love, caring and giving. That's the lesson to carry away with you from this.
We have to love ourselves enough to say to ourselves that our hearts are most precious, and that we will only give our whole heart away to the right person, when they come along.
And yes, often times cheaters are NOT remorseful, which only just shows they they have no conscience. A person with a conscience would feel remorseful and horrible about it.
So she is a very selfish person with no conscience to boot. Good riddance!! And probably very immature and naive as well to not understand the value of money, especially someone else's money that has been spent on them.
And give and take should be pretty much equal in a healthy relationship.