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Originally Posted by Depressed-Fiance
When you say girl, she is actually a grown woman at 39yrs of age! That makes the equation even more difficult to comprehend.
Actually, people can be very naive at any age depending on their life experiences.
She has told me though that she hasn't had many relationships in the past (not that this gives her an excuse to cheat on me whether she has relationship experience or not.)
See? This proves my last statement in that even though this woman is older she is still very inexperienced when it comes to relationships.
I don't quite understand what you mean by the part highlighted in bold? Do you mean that it could be because she has issues that she hasn't addressed?
Yes, she sounds like she does have challenges that she needs to address and preferably with a therapist
She was never one to like to be the centre of attention and couldn't take compliments well (too modest).
I just think that the whole relationship didn't have a foundation and railed along at 100MPH.
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True, yet from what you have shared this woman's personal foundation is lacking and she simply doesn't have enough experience and knowledge when it comes to the how to's in relationships.
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She came from a broken childhood. Her parents split up and divorced when she was an early teenager, her Dad was an alcoholic, there was never any morals/strict right from wrong values in her upbringing and her mum has since got with a new partner who she has been with for quite a few years and the alcohol killed her Dad.
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Here is your answer to her behaviors right here. When a parent is an alcoholic a child doesn't really get to see "healthy" boundaries or get support to develop healthy boundaries for themselves.