I don't have grandchildren yet but as that baby gets older, maybe there will be a chance to babysit? As in, the parents are on a date or working. I hope you are able to continue to see your grandchild.

My memories of my grandmother were of us cooking together and listening to Elvis records. She had very little money and didn't buy me things yet she managed to spend quality time with me and made me feel loved. Try to stick with a budget if you can because a baby remembers being held, sang to, read to (library) and interactions not gifts. Oh, and my grandmother made me feel like I was always welcome and "belonged" at her house anytime I was there. She babysat the three of us (we were a handfull) all of the time.

It really must be upsetting to have to put up with your son in-law and daughter and have to depend on their good will. You want to have quality time--not troubled time with your grandchildren--I hope they don't ruin that. You ARE at their mercy so try to just do the best you can--sometime you do have to have time outs from relatives that are toxic. It will be tricky for sure when we have anxiety, etc. we are personally dealing with. You will want to be at your best when you are spending time with them. I think quality counts more that quantity.