There is more to this than him and her having separate dogs that other person isn’t allowed to even touch (his dog isn’t a service dog by the way so no excuse for not allowing his your own wife to touch him).

Concern is that a man “used to” be controlling but now “he isn’t” because they live such isolated life that OP gives him nothing to “control” her about. Well first of all it’s typical sign of abusive marriage. Second of all even though they are so remote and isolated, he still found something to control her about: this time it’s a dog.

Nothing in this thread indicates that dog is abused (not saying it’s not but OP didn’t mention it). But many things in this post indicates that OP is being abused (not saying physically). Why her being mistreated isn’t a concern? Getting her own dog isn’t going to make her hurt less over her husband’s controlling ways. It’s not going to fix marital issue.

This isn’t about dogs.