Hmmm, are we missing some posts here?

I agree with the opening statement about not having it both ways. I see time and time again people around me expecting this. If a person is causing so much turmoil in your life that is toxic. As with any toxic substance it needs to be removed.

When seeing this around you and someone's attempts to bring you in occurs then I think you need to put up a boundary to prevent that. You could point out you have already made comment on the issue and that it is a mute point and you feel no differently now. Perhaps even say, ask me for help after you have made a decision or choice.