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Originally Posted by pepper_mint
Yes, you're right - I should just ask for a different hour. I didn't do this because:
- first of all I'm not good at asking for what I need 
- for my work it generally doesn't matter because I can work in the evening as well
- I thought that T knows better and if she knows that I'm a night owl and I'm sleepy in the morning and she still keeps me on that time - it makes sense for some reasons
(I also read somewhere that it's good to have a session when you are not at your highest energy level). So I was just confused and I didn't know what would be better for me.
The worst thing is, that know even if I could change a session time - I know that for two years (!!!) I had my session at a wrong time and T didn't do anything with this. So know how can I trust her that she'll do as much she can to help me?
Tomorrow I have a session and I try to talk about this. But I'm sooo angry at her now that I know that it will be difficult. |
Therapists aren't mind readers.
Their job is to work with us to "help us help ourselves." They can't do the work for us or make all the decisions for us (as much as I sometimes wish they could lol)
It's okay and understandable to wish your therapist had proactively offered the option of another time, and I don't want to invalidate that. I often find myself feeling similar frustration with my therapist. At the same time, an important part of therapy is often learning how to identify our needs and communicate about them.
Maybe it would be helpful to have a convo about how she could help create an environment in which you'd feel more comfortable expressing your preferences and wants and needs in the future?
I hope it goes well and you're able to find a time that works better for you and discuss your feelings about it with your T.