Hmmmm I don't know what Kiya meant but the interesting thing is that I don't think it is odd at all to think that a male may be aroused by a hug and a woman wouldn't. It has been my experience that men and women react differently to hugs.

Take me and my husband for example; there have been many times when I just needed a comforting hug and he wanted a tad more. Now, maybe that is just my experience but I don't think so.

A friend of mine told me it was a "natural male reaction" to become aroused when he hugs a woman. Now, this is probably not true for every man/woman interaction but I really don't think it's odd to be concerned about that possibility.

Soooo, maybe it's just because of my personal life experience but I don't think it's at all odd or different for me to worry that if I said I wanted a hug then T would think I wanted more than a hug. Apparently, neither did he.

This is my therapy and I am very comfortable with it. The irony here is that my statement to T was very very difficult to make and was a leap of honesty in the relationship. He knew it and the intimate nature of the relationship was able to grow because of it.