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Originally Posted by divine1966
There is more to this than him and her having separate dogs that other person isn’t allowed to even touch (his dog isn’t a service dog by the way so no excuse for not allowing his your own wife to touch him).
Concern is that a man “used to” be controlling but now “he isn’t” because they live such isolated life that OP gives him nothing to “control” her about. Well first of all it’s typical sign of abusive marriage. Second of all even though they are so remote and isolated, he still found something to control her about: this time it’s a dog.
Nothing in this thread indicates that dog is abused (not saying it’s not but OP didn’t mention it). But many things in this post indicates that OP is being abused (not saying physically). Why her being mistreated isn’t a concern? Getting her own dog isn’t going to make her hurt less over her husband’s controlling ways. It’s not going to fix marital issue.
This isn’t about dogs.
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Exactly my thoughts. I bolded what I thought is particularly concerning here. The OP says they talked about getting a dog together, then he went out and got one without her and now claims the dog is his. That is cruel. To not allow her near the dog in any way is cruel. To keep the dog deliberately away from her, in knowing how much she wants to have and love the dog, is cruel.
She is most certainly being mistreated, which makes me wonder as well about their fights, what they are about, and how he behaves otherwise.
And yes, she is now isolated and and therefore he has less to exert control over. Now it's the dog.
I find the tip off to be that he used to be controlling before this and also showed jealousy of others' successes. Control and jealousy are two traits of an abuser, not to mention, extreme cruelty.