This is all good advice and ideally it would be the healthiest thing to do... talk it all out with my daughter and a therapist. At this point I think the best I can do is be kind and get along. There’s a long history of stuff here and I’ve been rejected so many times in the past... so I work on acceptance and how I can cope with it. Thank you so much for your kind encouragement. Probably at this point I need to work on myself... things like better boundary setting and better acceptance of things I can’t change... That’s why I’m here talking about it. The problem-solving might need to start with myself and go from there...