I like his response a lot - sounds like something my T would say too. But it might be interesting to take the question and explore it - "Why wouldn't it be OK to want to be special?" -- actually for me, being special has more "stuff" around it than the sex part -OK, well maybe not MORE - but at least as much.

When I think about wanting to be special, I feel selfish and presumptuous - and like I'm looking for my T to gratify some ego need. And I get all hung up in the "I'm not pretty enough, slim enough, smart enough, etc, etc." to be special to someone like my T. And then I'll go down the "I shouldn't want this/need this" road - ug. All very old stuff.

So even though the question was validating - it might be useful to actually try to answer it.

And...I also want to say that I think you are very brave to have taken such a leap of faith. Good for you!