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Originally Posted by Blogwriter
Hi InYourHonor,
I am so sorry to hear of your situation with getting therapy. Eight months is a long time when dealing with a situation like yours. Are you able to talk with your psychiatrist when you get medication management? Some psychologists will listen if you have something to discuss. I suggest you get on the waiting list if you haven't done so already. Another thing that may help is to find a free depression support group. Meanwhile, I suggest you set some firm boundaries in your relationship with your sister-in-law. For example, you may decide not to spend a lot of time alone with her or limit the amount of time you spend with her. You may also want to consider spending more time with your wife so you can be closer relationship-wise.
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Great - someone else who thinks I want to have a romantic relationship with my sister in law
To be clear - I do not want a romantic relationship with my sister in law. I am not physically attracted to her. I love her as a daughter/sister. I only have and want a romantic relationship with my wife whom I adore and love above all others.
Why is it as soon as you say you love someone in your extended family it has to be automatically assumed you want to have sex with them?
As I clearly stated in my initial post:
"I had always wanted a younger sister and I instantly took to the role of protective big brother. Over the years I kind of grew to see her almost as my own daughter/sister hybrid, and I suppose a part of me hoped she would reciprocate that."
My wife and I can't have kids - I doubt you know what that is like - but I can tell you it hurts like hell. So if you have always wanted a daughter and are told you can never have one, you will look for a way to fill that hole, and as my sister in law was already somewhat in that role I think it is understandable that my heart latched onto that paternal love for her and made her a surrogate.
I can't tell you how many times my wife and I have cried together over the fact we will never have a family of our own. If things had been different with her family we might have been able to and I wouldn't be in this situation now. But as it was, we put our lives on hold to care for children that didn't have parents that cared for them. We did the decent thing and tried to give them a semblance of a family that loved and cared for them. And now, because I can't deal with the loss of my unborn children, the loss I feel from the person I loved as if she were my own daughter, the screwed up childhood and relationships I've experienced throughout my life, the screwed up brain I have and can't understand, I'm accused of not loving my wife enough and wanting a sexual relationship with my sister in law.
Thanks - really glad I came here for advice.
PS. my psychiatrist is retired, you evidently missed that as well.