I can see how reading stories of termination would concern anyone; other people affect us, and that is as it should be. There are a number of psychological processes that can filter the way we take in information that shapes our interpretations. Some of this is "vividness" and the story of unexpected and sometimes viscous termination sticks out in the mind and makes it appear to be more common than it really is.
If I started a thread titled My Therapist Didn't Terminate Me Today, probably nobody would read it, or they would stop once they realized it wasn't that I was expecting to be terminated because I hacked into their FB and friended myself. Likewise, I don't post about not being afraid of termination because it's not bothering me to feel that way. So part of it is the nature of online groups, combined with the fact that those who just go to therapy and either don't think about it and/or who don't struggle with it are unlikely to find this board or want to. So the struggles or problems with therapy are more likely to be over represented here.
But I've had three long term therapists and none has ever terminated me, unless you count the first one where he took a job at my workplace and so we needed to terminate (I can't imagine he would have wanted to continue even if I did). It had been about three years with him so it was upsetting, but I found it easy to work with a new T. I saw my old t occasionally in meetings but fortunately not too often.
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