Also....why are we eliminating ALL possibilities as to the cause for his behavior.....diagnosed or undiagnosed if a condition exists it is NOT something else just because WE want to deny the possibility because it is undiagnosed. Most adults who were not diagnosed with ASD as children have a hard time getting a diagnosis as an adult. Id doesn't mean it 8s not something they have or that it diesn't cause problems in the lives of those they are married to or live with.

His mother a nurse would be more aware of the possibility than any of our denials that it's not. It doesn't justify behaviors but it explains what REALLY needs to be worked on if possible.