I don't want to start over with a new T either, and I feel that my last T also kind of dumped me -- in a strange way, as she left my city and then returned and let things kind of trail off.

However, is it possible that your reluctance to start over is "the depression talking?"

If you WERE to find a great new T, then talking about the trauma stuff again would be painful, but you and your new T would form a better team in order to tackle your issues. IF that did happen, you could make scads of progress and come out the other side, renewed and restored. Personal growth IS possible in therapy with the right match between the client and the professional. I believe that can happen because I've seen it work and seen tremendous personal growth occur. It's happened to me!

And your T sounds like a real cold fish to me. Just my $.02.