Nope. Maybe we should make this the smarter person thread.

I happened on a you tube clip of someone analyzing the differences between two comic book characters and, I was shocked, it helped me understand myself a little better. (bear with me)

Tony Stark vrs Steve Rogers.

Tony has always been the smartest person in the room. Over many years he has learned he cannot rely on others because they can never produce anything as good as him and thus he has learned he must do everything himself. He has few friends and doesn't trust many people because often, they disappoint him. Tony is often funny and flippant but it is mostly his way of trying to be relatable to others.

Steve on the other hand comes from a place of helping others. He gives others implicit trust constantly and always feels that others do come through for him, no matter the situation or the reality. if people fail him he mostly brushes it off and ignores it. He is considered a leader and has many friends who are loyal to him because he is loyal to them no matter what - his loyalty to others will always be more important over having things done right. In his mind people will always rise to the occasion for him.

Both of these kind of people are necessary to society.

I absolutely see myself as Tony Stark. I have often expressed frustration that I am never the leader or the BFF in anything in my life even though I am smarter and SHOULD be the person who is the leader or the BFF. In any circumstance I am liked, in a way that Tony Stark is liked, but no matter my abilities, no one wants to follow me or be my BFF. I am tolerated likely because of my smarts and humor. I have one or two loyal friends.

But if tomorrow I was able to give my whole hearted trust to people and just sit back and trusted them to rise to the occasion, I would be more popular. I just don't know how to do that. I need to have things done right and can't really allow other people to do a poor job.