To me, saying what my goal is -- not preaching. I'm not interested in putting out any more dumps in the world, already enough in my opinion, including those who have dumped on me. And I've done my own dumping and don't find it useful anymore. Just because I don't want to do what you do doesn't mean I am criticizing or judging. What's right for you is not necessarily true for other people, what's right for me may not be right for you. Not saying you should do anything differently. Fortunately I have a T who has helped me develop to the place where I can articulate difficult things. Not always right away, in every given moment, but slowly and surely the words make their way to the surface. That is my goal.