I'm so sorry, sunnydisposition You must be very confused at the moment. That's understandable. If you don't feel like handling a relationship at the moment, then know that you don't have to. Taking care of yourself and giving yourself time to heal is a totally legitimate and even wise decision. My suggestion would be to just be honest with this woman, and tell her that you prefer not to be involved in a relationship at the moment because of your past experiences. Be kind, but honest and firm. Hopefully she will understand, since she also knows part of your past. When you'll feel ready to take on a new relationship, that will be the ideal moment. You may even try a few dates with her and just see how it works out - for you and for her. Just do what you feel like it's the best thing for you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you