Actually we are the ones who judge ourselves more and hardest than anyone else. But, we sometimes neither are aware. For example, when we read other people’s words in a certain way, or when we judge some stuff on others bc it’s easier to see it outside than inside us. Or when we think we don’t deserve to be simply another one with the same value as anybody else.
When you are young you have a real need to fit and be an equal. With time and compassion you learn that you are equal in your diversity. So, why bother.
There was a time when I neither dare to go outside bc I didn’t like myself a single bit. It’s natural that all your body, behaviours and breaths shout out loud and project outside what it’s inside. It’s very normal that people caught it and let them drive for first impressions when we don’t let them see beyond.