Open eyes makes good points but I’d caution against excusing people’s behaviors because of whatever diagnosis (real or perceived).

Sometimes bad behavior is just that. Bad behavior. I’ve met ton of people with ton of every disability or disorder imaginable (professionaly speaking but I prefer to remain anonymous) and ,no , having disorders or disabilities doesn’t make one a jerk. Sure certain disorders cause problems in relationships but generally speaking it doesn’t excuse bad behaviors.

My husband has all kind of disabilities but he is at no point never ever unkind or abusuve or a jerk.

Some people just aren’t nice. And some men are not nice to their own wives. Again speaking as a professional ifthis man does not have a formal diagnosis let’s refrain from diagnosing him.

My phone is acting out so my apologies for messed up typing