Abusers are excruciatingly insecure and take out their anger on others. Take that anger/hatred and use it for something positive.....in my case (after a childhood of abuse, and abuse by a husband for 31 years; I used that energy and wrote 2 books and started school at 60. There is only one you in the world and you do deserve love and support. Honor all of your feelings, and don't allow anyone to decide who and what you are. YOU get to decide that.