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Old Jan 10, 2019, 08:24 AM
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Originally Posted by Anne2.0 View Post
My guess would be that he didn't want to save it until the end because that would give you no opportunity to talk about any reactions you might have to the break or the reasons for it. To put it out there and send you off seems kind of cold. I don't know if pregnancy or children are a sensitive issue for you, or if breaks are.

But I do understand how that could have affected you and why you felt you needed to withdraw. It might be helpful to you if you could tell him how it affected you and figure out a better way for him to let you know about breaks without putting too much info for you out there.

Yeah I can see that.
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