Let me test this out on you and see if you think I have a right to complain about it:

The federal shutdown is affecting me too, because I am a federal contractor (I work for myself). It's maybe 20-25% of my overall gigs. But right now two substantial payments from two different federal places are owed to me, some reimbursing me for expenses as well as time-- one that I've been trying to collect on since May 2018.

So I feel a twinge of what I think you experience given your family situation, and I think I understand how it feels to be worried about money because of something completely out of your hands. And maybe the unempathic callousness of some of the political dialog or (my) utter lack of support for the thing that is causing the shutdown makes not getting paid a little more painful.

I guess I would say I think we have something in common, so I believed complaining about how it affects me would feel supportive to you. If I'm wrong, I apologize and I'll edit my post to (.).