Thanks for feedback everyone ! I feel loads better sticking to my plan to not allow one on one dating until a later age. I will do all that I can to encourage the get togethers in a group where the kids can still be kids as they get to know each other as potential future dates.
At least one other mom has come up with a group outing for spring break - so perhaps this will catch on. At least catch on with the group of kids my son is currently involved with.
It is not easy being a parent and I worry about being too strict or out of touch with the kids. But I'm thinking that the basics are still a sure bet.
Thanks everyone for your feedback