I don't think you have any obligation to stay with her, NuckingFutz. If you feel like she's being too clingy, then yes, maybe it's time to reconsider this relationship. You have every right to have your own space as well. If you feel like it, you can try to explain to her that there's a problem. Hopefully she'll understand and try to correct her behavior, although you can't be sure of that. But that's your choice. I also think it would be a good idea to meet her in real life to see what kind of person she is. Maybe you could even suggest therapy to her if you feel like that could help. Remember that you can only do so much to help and that the final decision is up to her. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you