Researching Asperger's now called ASD in relation to my OWN marriage failing I found out that it wasn't even diagnosed in the US until 1994. Then only a handfull understood it anyway so getting a diagnosis even then was not that possible.

My now ex presented with obvious behavioral characteristics in all our marriage counseling & the Pdoc we both went to ONLY diagnosed him with adult ADD in 2004 but added that he should go see a neurologist because he has more going on than JUST adult ADD & that was at the time I finally left him in 2007. We think that these Dx's are just so easy to come up with & that every PDOC & therapist recognizes the behaviors but in reality it is a lot harder to put the pieces together than we are quick to judge from the outside...also if the person is an adult they have to be willing to go after the diagnosis & many don't even want to know that a label that contains autism is a part of them even though a label or lack thereof doesn't change the behavior that is creating a problem. Many just want everyone around to just continue tolerating the behavior as they have experienced all their life because as my ex said "this is who I am".....sadly he was right & I finally had to make a choice as to whether I could continue to tolerate behaviors I had been fighting for 33 years.

When you are just an onlooker you have no idea how difficult it is to "JUST" get a DX even when it is suspected.