I have an issue with a man i've been txting with for over 2 years. It's been kind of an odd relationship the whole time, but I feel as though we both care about each other and enjoy keeping each other company. He is divorced, living in another woman's house, sees his 2 boys on a weekly basis and every other weekend. We basically just keep each other company by txt, and occasionally get together for--you guessed it--sex. We live 1.5 hours apart.

The issue: he has asked me a number of times if i want to "finger his butt". He has also asked me to wear a strap-on penis, and give him **** sex. He also wants **** sex with me. (He watches quite a bit of porn.) I told him a long time ago that we would have to be in a committed relationship before i would even consider something like that with him.


Well, we're still not in a committed relationship, but he keeps asking for this. When i reply "no", he gets quiet and says "don't worry about it" or "nevermind, it doesn't matter". I tell him I know this is something he really wants, i want him to be happy, and maybe he needs to get this from someone else. I thought he might be gay or bisexual, since he wants to be on the receiving end of the sex(?)

I just feel so stuck. And don't know what to do. I really like him, but we just can't seem to get past this.

Any suggestions or help is much appreciated!