I agree with golden. Sure he might behave this way because of whatever issues (rather than just being a jerk) but we don’t know that, there is no diagnosis and he isn’t posting here. SHE posted here however being quite distraught by abusive treatment. Instead of suggesting that she seeks help, we are focusing on how he needs help even though he isn’t posting here.

We can spend hours analyzing “diagnosis” of someone who isn’t even posting here. What is being accomplished by doing so? We are all college educated people and some if us are in mental health or similar fields so we can analyze until cows come home. But unless OP comes back and says that our analysis of his nonexistent diagnosis now solved her issue, then I don’t see any point in continue focusing on how poor guy is abusive because of ADD or ASD or LD. All we know is she is suffering.