I think every person will react differently to their hardships, ennie. Some people will get tougher and will believe that everyone has to be tough as well if they want to get through life, while other people will show more compassion and sympathy. So I'd say it depends on what kind of person you are and your experiences. There isn't always a single, logical answer. I'm sorry you've had to deal with not-so-compassionate people, but try not to take it too personally. That's probably just their point of view, based on the experiences they've had. Sending many hugs to you