I live in a city where it takes 20-30mins just to get to the next city.

The hour drive isn't a deal breaker for me. I wish she was closer, but I'm already used to driving that long for T. I used to live 30mins away from T, but then we moved. I actually am familiar with the area. I grew up in that city. The office is just a block away from the old mental hospital I stayed at when I was 13!

Side note: if H and I have to move again, it will take me 2 hours to see T!