Hi sofrustrated....

You sound frustrated and I can't blame you. I'm sure your children are as confused, if not more so...Where is Daddy?...It is heartbreaking what illness can do to families...

I know this is hard but my suggestion is a viable one...Something must change here if real long term progress is be realized.

Make a boundary,,a loving one,,,but one that is not negotiable. He will enter therapy and agree to continue and take the advice and prescribed medication. You will agree to enter therapy with him at a later date after he is properly diagnosed and medicated.

Refusal to agree to this for his sake and the sake of the family means he is not done "thinking".

He cannot return to the house until he has had his first appointment.

I know this is hard, but his illness will take him down and you and your children too if you let it...

IMHO.

Lenny