Just a thought

It looks that you in general tend to allow people to use yiu/abuse you/take advantage of your difficulty with saying “no”’and being too trusting. I know you have been working on it. And it’s great.

But now you are trying to enlist third party to be used financially like it wasn’t enough that yiu are often being used. And when the person says “no” you are trying to guilt her “but the other person has kids”. You were guilted by people before but now you are doing just the same: guilting.

I’d probably focus less on what others do and more on what you do and why. You can’t control others and their actions, only your own