Where could I start.. My husband started to work from home like a year ago, it was just a part-time job and not very consistent. It worked pretty well at the beginning but slowly started to be an issue in our relationship. I work full-time and I guess I started to be jealous of his schedule, being able to be home etc. Since he had so much time on his hands, he started to play computer games again (used to play them 24/7 as a teenager) which also included joining some online forums. In July I discovered that he was talking to multiple girls online (sexually and romantically) and that he joined forums such as "looking for monogamous relationship" etc. He told me he had only talked to one girl (but I saw multiple conversations with multiple women) and only because she had mental issues. After that, he stopped talking to them online, yet still kept playing video games. He was supposed to find a new job since his PT job slowly stopped making him any money, yet he wasn't able to (or didn't even try?) find one within the past 6-7months. He plays his computer games around 10 hours a day, goes to bed at 3-5am pretty much every day, spends money (that I'm trying to save) on his games and ignores everything around the house. Whenever I try to confront him about something he gets very upset, calls me names like "******", "idiot" etc and just yells at me. Whenever I find out he lied to me about something it's the same - starts to yell at me, starts to throw things, hit himself, calls me names and sometimes blames it on me. Then he always apologizes and tells me how much he loves me and that I'm his everything. Now he is supposed to go back to school starting in two weeks, but every time I asked him to show me his log in, schedule or just something, he gets upset and his log in magically doesn't work and I become an "idiot" again because I don't understand how his school works. I looked at his school email and saw many emails from his school counselors telling him that he was late to sign up and can only sign up for summer semester at this point. He also lied to them why he dropped out of school a year ago and said it was because of his dad's illness (even though his dad is perfectly fine).
I guess I'm just looking for some help in this forum, maybe someone here has experienced something similar? I don't really have anyone to talk to since I've moved from a different country to be with him so outside of work I have nobody but him and his family here.
Thanks for reading through this and for a potential help!