Hi SetemberMorn, He does know that I don't want to be sexually touched while he THINKS I'm sleeping. This is a new behavior he is exhibiting. We've been married 31 yrs. Regardless of whether you are a husband or wife if the other person doesn't want to be touched in that way at that time it is inappropriate. Just because we are married doesn't give him the right to rule my body. Cuddling is fine but not sneaking like he does. He knows it wakes me up and I don't want him to do it. Being sexually molested by my Dad as a child doesn't help. After my husband does his sexual stuff to me and I wake up when I go back to sleep my dreams are very bad.