DP, I think you're doing an amazing job respecting his space. Many would have contacted him by now, and your forbearance speaks of strength.

I wonder if reading about all kinds of relationships ending would help? Break ups of all kinds hurt, and this is the feeling of being left. It is a horrible feeling, and it is deeply part of life and of human experience. It ties us together. Many whose significant other cheats/leaves /ends a relationship ask these same questions - did you ever love me, did your heart harden to me now and you no longer care? Sometimes the other person grieved the whole relationship before taking action, so they are at the end of a long process before leaving- but their love was real in its time.

If your T cared, he still cares. Maybe in a never-ending story kind of way but probably he thinks of you.

It may be he made a really tough decision he feels is in your best interest. Failing at a job and a marriage puts hardly anyone one in the right place in their heart to be connected and be healthy in relationship without a lot of work and time.