P.S. Not writing that from a place of denying your/ my vulnerability or criticising. I agree with MedusaX about trying to come home to my own place where I recognise myself. It is constant hard work to maintain that safe place internally.

Writing from a place of... you are good at your job, you will do well in the future, you will need these dealing with other people skills and you will need managing your irritation. That's what I still say to myself when people bug me: this is not life or death, it is not my family, as an adult I can make mistakes. I get choices about how I project my feelings and negotiate with other people's projections.