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Originally Posted by Waterloo12345
I was going to say just this. If he's already worried about his licence then he would have to be a lot stupider than he sounds to write a 'true' goodbye letter.
Eta: wrote before read the rest but perhaps weight of views can help change your mind 
I also think Anne may have something with the confirmation bias.
As for fixable- for me I pray it is and I think it is cause I am getting better but I hear your difficulties in this area.
Eta: maybe being stoic is how he holds in his emotion. You'll not catch me crying and showing vulnerability. You'd think from my outside appearance I was just see you later alligator but be dying inside. So maybe that's him? He felt he had to be the strong one? |
I was thinking the same thing about being stoic. Like he may have been really sad about not seeing you anymore, but felt he had to keep up a certain front. Or he might have totally lost it, become really emotional, etc... And maybe he had some doubts that he was doing the right thing in changing jobs, and he couldn't let himself feel that.
And I agree about the letter, where he may have felt he had to be professional. My T has said that ex-MC is probably being careful in what he replies to me over email since termination for that same reason. I mean, if he said, "I'm so sorry that I hurt you with my actions/mistakes," that could be seen as admitting fault, if I opted to report or sue him. So maybe your T is trying to be extra professional now, both with the letter and the no-contact.