I'm so sorry you're struggling, alokn He doesn't sound like a good husband at all. I'd suggest to dump him as soon as you can. Do you have any children? Either way, I think you should leave. It doesn't seem like he cares about this relationship and he doesn't even want to talk about it. And I feel like it's trying to manipulate you into staying. I'd suggest couple counselling, but really, he's the one that has to change. So it's either that, or you leaving him. I don't see many other solutions. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this